Social/Emotional Wellness

“Place your hand over your heart, can you feel it?

That is called PURPOSE.

You’re alive for a reason, so don’t ever give up.”

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September is National Suicide Month

Suicide Awareness and Prevention

Suicide can be difficult to talk about but according to research, it is the #2 leading cause of death among students aged 14-18 years of age.

If you or someone you know is having thoughts about Self Harm, please seek help from an adult immediately.

At School: email or speak with a trusted adult such as a counselor, coach, teacher, secretary, custodian, administrator, campus supervisor or resource officer.

Off Campus: speak to a trusted adult or contact one of the crisis lines listed below.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Resources and a message from Ms. Ramos

Suicide Prevention Resources (1).pdf

Available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Dial 988

The Trevor Line: 1 (866) 488-7386 or Text START to 678678. The Trevor Lifeline connects lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning (LGBTQ) young persons to a suicide prevention and counseling phone line with access to trained counselors 24/7.

Behavioral Health Crisis Line: 1 (800) 334-6622 or 1 (530) 891-2810

The Disaster Distress Helpline: 1 (800) 985-5990 or Text START to 678678. A national hotline dedicated to providing immediate crisis counseling for people who are experiencing emotional distress related to any natural or human-caused disaster.

BCDBH Crisis Services

Available to all age groups unless otherwise noted. These services are accessed by self-referral or agency/department referrals. Walk-In Crisis Services Available 8:00am to 11:00pm, 7 days a week including holidays.
560 Cohasset Rd. Ste. 100, Chico, CA 95926

CA Youth Crisis Line: 800-843-5200

Social Emotional Learning

Please click on the link above if you or someone you know needs help

Please email your high school counselor or Ms. Ramos if you need support.

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month

(Some of the following information has been provided by Catalyst Domestic Violence Services)

With Valentine Day in February, thoughts of love are in the air and you may be thinking "what will I get from my partner or what should I get them?" With decisions to be made, you could purchase a heart full of chocolate, a stuffed bear holding a heart, or a bouquet of flowers. Why not think instead, talk to your partner about "Appropriate Teen Dating Awareness."

February is dedicated to Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month. When we think about dating, the furthest thing from our mind could be that maybe we have gotten ourselves into a relationship that is not healthy. How do we know when we are in a relationship that is healthy vs unhealthy?

If you think you or someone you know is in an unhealthy relationship, stop by the Counseling Office to see one of the counselors or you can call 1-800-895-8476 24/7 days a week.

February 9th is National Wear Orange Day. Wear orange to show your support for teen dating violence awareness and prevention.

Facts About Teen Dating

Fact #1: Dating abuse is about one person trying to get power and control over another person. It can look like, one partner not letting the other person wear what they want or telling them they look bad in what they are wearing.

Fact #2: In order to be in a healthy relationship, you must first have a healthy relationship with yourself. Think of 3 things that are special about you and remind yourself everyday that you are valuable. Love yourself first and foremost.

Fact #3: When we are in healthy relationships, we should feel safe. We should be able to express our feelings and thoughts without fear of being made fun of. You should feel safe telling your partner that you need space or want to spend time with other people. Everyone deserves to feel safe!

Fact #4: Always trust your gut feelings. If someone makes you feel unsafe you probably are. Abusive relationships become more dangerous during break ups. Be sure to tell someone that you are feeling scared and get help from someone you trust.

Fact #5: In a healthy relationship: you are both open and honest. Your partner supports you and your choices even when they disagree with you. Both of you have equal say in the relationship and respect each other's boundaries. Your partner understands that you need to study or hang out with friends and family. You can communicate your feelings without being afraid of negative consequences. Healthy relationships are fun and feel good!!

Fact #6: 1 in 2 teens in a dating relationship compromise their beliefs to please a dating partner. It's important to know what your values are so that you know when you are compromising too much. Values may change over time, but our dating partners should always respect our values and we should not compromise the things that are most important to us.

Fact #7: Love is respect. Respect is being able to listen to another person's ideas and beliefs without judging them. Respect is treating people how you would like to be treated and putting yourself in their shoes to help understand what they are going through. Respect is always kind and honest and never controlling.

Fact #8: Jealously is not love. While jealously is a normal part of every dating relationship, extreme jealousy is unhealthy. When your dating partner's jealousy changes or controls your behavior, it has gone too far. We all have the right to have different friends and to spend time apart: when your partner makes you feel guilty for these things their jealousy has become abusive.

Fact #9: Privacy Matters!! You and your dating partner should never snoop through each other's cell phones or feel pressured to give them passwords for e-mail or social media accounts. We all have the right to privacy.

Fact #10: Technology such as social media and cell phones are being used more often to control dating partners and monitor who they talk to. Some warning signs that your partner may be using technology to control you are:

They tell you who you can or can't be friends with on Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat or other social media sites.
They send you negative, insulting or threatening messages online.
They put you down in their social media posts.
They send you unwanted, explicit pictures and demand you send some in return.
They steal or insist you give them your passwords.
They constantly text you and make you feel like you can't be separated from your phone for fear that you will be punished.
They look through your phone frequently, check up on your pictures, texts, and outgoing calls.

If you are in a dating relationship, think about how it makes you feel on a daily basis. Does the relationship make you feel happy and energized most of the time? Or does it take away your energy and make you upset more often? Healthy relationships make us feel good MOST of the time while unhealthy relationships make us feel unhappy MOST of the time.

"Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others" -Benjamin Franklin

In healthy relationships we are not trying or hoping for the other person to change.

Teen Dating Abuse Warning Signs

Because all relationships lie on a spectrum, it can be hard to tell when something “crosses the line from healthy to unhealthy or unhealthy to abusive. You can use these common warning signs to help you figure out how well your relationship is going.

• Before you met your partner, you had more friends than you do now.

• They threaten to break up with you or accuse you of planning to break up with them.

• They believe one should be in control and the other should do what they're told.

• If they text you, you must respond immediately.

• They said “I love you” very early in the relationship.

• They want your relationship to get too serious, too fast, and won't take “no” for an answer.

• They pressure you into having sex or force you to do sexual things you don’t want to do by saying, “If you really loved me, you would...”

• They accuse you of things you have not done.

• They are violent in other areas of their life: puts fists through walls, throws things when angry, bangs fists to make a point.

• They force you to choose between being with them or your friends and family.

• They make excuses for their behavior or say that it’s your fault.

• Frequently give you “advice” about your choice of friends, clothes, activities, etc.